VHA Social Work
Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP) - VETERANS & PARTNERS
High Risk behaviors may be signs of serious intimate partner violence and place the person at high risk of harm. These behaviors are intentionally hurtful, demeaning, controlling, and/or isolating. In these cases, one partner attempts to make the other feel afraid, feel bad about themselves and their abilities, or feel that they are not free to make their own choices.
- Dismissing the partner’s experience or boundaries.
- Blaming the partner who is experiencing harm.
- Calling the partner names, putting them down, or insulting them.
- Threatening the partner, other family members, pets or cherished belongings.
- Harming the partner physically or intentionally intimidating them.
- Preventing the partner from spending time with others.
- Violating the partner’s privacy. Making the partner share personal information including access to internet accounts, medical records, etc.
- Not allowing the partner to make his or her own choices.
- Forcing or coercing the partner to engage in sexual activity.
- Controlling reproductive decisions such as whether to use contraception, engage in safe sex practices or making pregnancy decisions.
If any of these unhealthy or high-risk behaviors are familiar to you, reach out for help.
Consider the following resources: